If you let people treat you like a doormat, you’ll be quite forgotten in the end.
Proverbs 29:21 MSG
Self esteem is your overall subjective emotional evaluation and valuation of your worth. It is simply how you see, carry and conduct yourself. It encompasses your self-worth, self-regard, self-respect and self-control.
How you view yourself is how people will view you. How you treat yourself is how people will treat you and how you value yourself is how people will value you.
Low self-esteem is characterized by a lack of confidence and feeling badly about oneself.
The following are 10 Manifestations of Low Self-esteem in Ministry:
1) YOU HATE YOURSELF
There are people that hate themselves, especially as a result of sins, scandals, mistakes, shortcomings and misdemeanors. No matter the matter, ensure that you don’t get to the point of hating yourself. Love yourself by all means. If you don’t love yourself, it will be difficult to love the ministry and love others.
2) YOU HATE YOUR BODY
When you feel you are not handsome or beautiful or you get angry about your height or body size, you are slowly sliding into low self esteem. If there’s something in your body you can correct through exercise and workout, do it, rather than hate your body.
3) YOU HATE YOUR MEMBERS
When you begin to hate the members God has given to you, it is an indication of low self esteem.
Most times, God sends crude people to you at the beginning. It is your duty as a minister to refine them and bring out the best in them.
Instead of hating your members, spend time to disciple them.
4) YOU APPEAR MISERABLY AND BEGGARLY
How you dress and appear at all times is very important. As a minister, you are the Ambassador of Heaven and hence, you must represent Heaven well in all aspects of life.
Always begging is a sign of low self esteem. Dressing and appearing in a manner to attract self pity is a sign of low self esteem.
Always be sharp, optimistic and cheerful.
5) YOU ARE ALWAYS FEARFUL AND ANXIOUS
Constant anxiety and fear is a sign of low self esteem.
If you are always afraid of the betrayal, breakaway, disloyalty and rebellion from your members, then you are battling with low self esteem.
6) YOU ARE A PEOPLE PLEASER
When you constantly fear that you will lose the people, thereby, always doing things to please them, you need to check it.
A good leader leads the people and not vice versa.
7) YOU ARE OVERSENSITIVE AND CONSTANTLY SEEKING THE VALIDATION OF PEOPLE
When you constantly seek the validation of people and always feel bad should people speak ill of you, especially when what they’re saying is not true, you need to rise above low self esteem.
8) YOU ARE ASHAMED WHEN YOU SEE YOUR MATES OR COLLEAGUES
Competition is simply an internal and personal battle with low self esteem.
Stop being ashamed when you see your mates flaunting what they have.
Maintain your confidence, faith and hope, believing and expecting that yours is coming.
9) YOU FEEL WORTHLESS, USELESS AND UNSUCCESSFUL
Don’t feel bad about yourself and ministry.
Continue working on yourself and on your ministry and your day of celebration and elevation will come.
10) YOU FEEL LIKE COMMITTING SUICIDE
Low self esteem leads to depression and depression leads to suicide.
- Feel good about yourself.
- See your ministry as the best in the world.
- View your calling as a high calling.
- Know and understand that a call to ministry is a call to honour.
- Add value to your life daily.
- Avoid negativity at all cost.
- Associate with people that will encourage, motivate and sharpen you and not people that will deride and disparage you.
- Fight low self esteem at all cost.
Pastor, Prophet, Accountant